My 100 Day reality Challenge!!! (Written on Day 31)

Well I wanted to drop a little update, I’m still working and working and working to get to my goals!

Looking to change lives and run a solo business at the same time!
Looking to get more opportunities to travel around and about the states!
Looking to compete and WIN karate tournaments!
Looking to have a home I can be excited about!

Of course this all depends on the Value I bring to the table for other people and how I impact lives around me. I wasn’t born in the land of Free Lunch. But I do have a great support system and people I look up to that keep me moving and are willing to help when I need it.

It’s funny to be the kind of person that may be expected to talk about a simple subject and give an overcomplicated reason for it’s existence. For example, talking about the mindset behind someone that is not motivated to work should not take more than 5 minutes, but folks want to hear a 1 hour seminar about why they don’t get up and work. Then they want to hear about how to get them selves to work. Then they want to feel good about it. Then after that, they might just have a conversation with you about how they are trying to work on getting motivated to work.

Lame.

What ever happened to just getting up and doing something? Anything! Even if people HATE it.

I guess that’s gone. I mean, people think I’m working my butt off from constantly typing all these blogs and video posting when I’m NOT. I’m just doing what most people don’t.

I’m following through on my word.

I’m saying I’m going to do something.

Then….

I do it.

“Whoa now…you mean to tell me if I want to do something, all have to do is take action? You mean I don’t have to talk about it? You mean I don’t have to ask permission? You mean I don’t have to consider the feelings or opinions of other people?”

Exactly.

The only thing worth considering is what you have to do to meet your goals and whether or not it physically stops another man from expressing his or her ability to take action as well. As far as I’m concerned, stopping another human being from doing what they TRULY want in life is the only sin you can commit.

It’s not complicated. But it IS your life.

Hope Lives.

Samuel Caban III

 

(Who are your friends?) I’m too stubborn to admit it…

…but my parents STILL have lessons to teach me.

Jerks.

I’m in the midst of the my 100 day challenge and no more than 10 days into it I found myself deeply challenged by my peers. Unfortunately, it was not in a positive way. I enjoy teaching people and trying to look for the good them but the fact of the matter remains. Sometimes there are those that are not right for you in your life. Or if I were to put it bluntly, there are those out there that don’t deserve your company. I have no problem when people try to tell me what issues I may be having. I will usually argue them if it does not make sense to me. But ultimately I’m glad some people have the sense to be honest and keep me in line. I can’t say that I value ANYTHING more from people than a simple honesty. There are to many out there who run from the truth. They don’t question. They don’t admit. They don’t accept. They don’t realize that there is not good or evil. Only constructive and destructive.

I do believe that most people want to love and be special. But I have had a few characters in my life who have pushed me beyond my limits. I have met those that have aroused a great anger inside of me and make me question why I spend time with them. But then I naturally began to look for why they were actually nice people and I should not look down on them.

As these ideas and questions came up I felt that I had no one else better to ask than my family. In the end, these were the people that cared for me the most. Even when I acted like a total jack wagon, they stood up for me. I have nothing else in my life that compares. So I had a talk with my Dad about the people that I felt were messing me up. He reminded me that sometimes, even though you believe that there are people in your life who are good people, you have to look at where you are. Do these people encourage you? Do these people make your life difficult? Can you compromise the interaction you have with certain people? Can you regulate it?

Of course I did not have to answer these questions. Usually all it takes is the question for you to understand the answer. But I’m dropping this simple post so that you may take a bit of time to see who it is you surround yourself with. Who is it that influences you? What people do you put your energy into? What kind of energy do you get back? If you need to, can you change all that and HOW?

I want to take this moment to say Thank You to all my family and friends who have been encouraging me to follow my dreams while still keeping myself properly grounded.

I love you all!

Hope Lives.

Samuel Caban III

 

Media Vs. Your Life

I came to a bit of a realization today.

I thought I might share it.

I got up early after a night of hanging out and hooked up with a buddy for lunch.

Then I got home, cleaned, did laundry, kept up with my 100 day reality challenge, spent time with my family, and had a meal close to the airport with some friends.

I came home feeling a little bushed and was about to play a video game; Tekken 6. Which if I had to choose a game to make sweet love to, that would be the one. But as soon as I turned it on, I realized that I was about to kill an hour only to feel crappy and have my eyes feeling weird at the end. I grabbed my zune, cell phone, and skate board and spent half an hour skating, 15 minutes talking on the phone, and the last 15 laying on the grass listening to pandora on my blackberry while staring at the half moon.

This…was WAY better than the hour I would have spent executing 10 hit combos with Hworang in my battles against Jin Kazama on an X-Box.

The night before, on the way home after the bars, my friend and I spent about 30 minutes talking about T.V. shows and movies we used to watch when we were young. And when I found myself rambling on and on about show after show and movies and games…

I thought, “How is it that I blew SO MUCH TIME just staring at a T.V.? How did I never notice that I was wasting my days? My precious minutes of life were GONE over theme songs and advertisements!”

The average American household has the T.V. on for close to 8 hours a day. That’s 64 hours a WEEK! That’s a FULL TIME JOB with OVERTIME! That’s YOUR TIME! And you are GIVING IT AWAY! Does that not BLOW YOUR MIND?!?!

Look.
T.V. and mass media and currently technology have a great power for us. That’s obvious. Without it you would not be reading this post. But without it you might also get off your ass and go outside, read a book, or spend time with people that matter. SO if I were you, I’d take a peek at how much time you kill doing NOTHING, and how you could be spending that time carving out a life to be proud of.

Hope Lives

Samuel Caban III

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Why am I a FAILURE?!

Ever wonder why you are having certain problems with your life?
Ever wonder why you don’t get enough money?
Why you don’t get good friends in your life or why you don’t get certain good relationships?

Most importantly…DO YOU EVER WONDER WHY MOST ADVERTISEMENTS CONVINCE YOU TO ASK YOURSELF ALL THE CRAPPY QUESTIONS ABOUT YOURSELF?

Interesting…

You see, a lot of the language we shove down our own throats tends to become the very same results we get. Furthermore, when some thing bad happens to us…we ALWAYS WANT TO KNOW WHY! When we go broke…why? When we get abused…why? What made that horrible thing happen to me? And as soon as we ask the question, our brain does what it is trained to do. It comes up with a logical reason that we are experiencing a negative situation. So then we create a reason for it to be okay. Even if the reason is not okay…our mind experiences a certain stability in knowing that there us an explanation for our bad day. In that sense, it’s okay that we slacked. It’s okay that we failed. It’s cool that we did not take action.

Yet when something POSITIVE happens to us. We don’t question it. As a matter of fact, we are so stuck in the idea that good things are just supposed to HAPPEN to us that when they do we enjoy them for a small amount of time and that’s it! Once something bad happens that moment of greatness is lost in the dust! We never took the time to do the same thing!!

ASK THE QUESTION!!!

WHY?

I just got a large sum of money! Why did this happen?

I just started dating an amazing man that cares for me and keeps me happy! Why did he come? Why does he stay?

I was promoted at work! Why?

I made a great amount of income in my business! WHY WHY WHY?!?!

You see, there are answers in those questions too! To be able to recognize the patterns of YOUR success is an amazing thing to do because not only do you discover what gives you the positive things in your life, but you begin to program you MIND to think and believe that you have nothing but TALENT, ABILITY, BEAUTY, RICHES, STRENGTH, and INTELLIGENCE!! When you keep reminding yourself of what you have, your skill becomes easier to use and more available to you when you need it!

So you have the tool now!!!
USE IT!

Maybe even begin with the question:

If I begin to ask questions about my positive outcomes, what can I achieve?

Hope Lives

Sam Caban

 

Obsession is the new COOL! :)

Hey boys and girls.

I’m in a pickle. Or I’m the pickle in the middle. Or I’m the pickle master. Not sure.

All I know is that I’m in a do or die position with this date coaching gig and I’ve come to terms with the idea that
I do not want to let go of Midwest Masters. I want it. Bad. And I’ve been in many of a position where I almost lost the site and have had people say that I’m not the real article. I’ve had lot’s of behind the back talk.

How do I know this?

Because rumors are not sacred. Period.

And I rarely ever give a crap about things I want. But I WANT THIS. Mostly because it’s my creation. Midwest Masters has been my baby for years. But I’ve been treating it like the children under the stairs. That’s no good. But why did I treat it that way?

Was it because of me? YES.

Was it for other people? YES.

What I needed to do long ago was flip the script. I should have been doing this because of other people who want help but FOR ME and NO ONE ELSE! I love changing people! LOVE IT!!! I can’t friggin’ get enough!

So I’ve made a few decisions. Unless it propels me forward, I will not give my time to other media or habits. The only helpful media is what I learn from and what I profit and connect with. That’s it. The only good habits I can pick up are those that make me worth following.

I stopped drinking. (And I’m not even a heavy drinker.) I’m in Wisconsin. Don’t care. Done.

I’m sickly obsessed with creating new material. I’d like to say that I’m gonna do one post or video a week, but I’ll probably do WAY more. SO just keep visiting this and the original www.midwestmasterdc.com

So why mention it? Because I wanna succeed. I want this business to explode and I know it would be of great use in the Milwaukee area.

I also would like to experiment with YOU so that you can take a look at real, live progress in someones life when they set a goal, pick the terms, and follow through. I want you to see how much you can get done and how fast.

I’m going to a website called co-creating our reality. http://www.cocreatingourreality.com/

This is a site where you take a 100 day challenge to change your life. You set goals and then meet them with 100 percent visibility and accountability. I’d urge you to take a look as well. But I must remind you that I will most likely not view or showcase your challenge unless you become living proof that you are meeting your goals as well. I want examples that show what an individual can do when he or she becomes obsessed with the goal.

PEACE.

Samuel Caban III

 

Is you is or is you aint’?

I was quite intent on waiting to write about this but I had a few people in a short time span bring up this subject in different situations. I hope this helps.

I believe that we all have good intent in our hearts. It’s our nature to do things that are kind and beyond ourselves. It simply feels good to help someone out…having the power to do it feels good…giving something away to bring something better to another human soul feels good. But what happens when you feel obligated to the emotional well being of another person? What happens when you can no longer simply live from your heart and you find yourself operating from another emotion? How does one get caught up in a situation that causes them to feel guilty for not taking a certain responsibility?

Please don’t misinterpret. If you have a child or you have taken on a professional role…you have a responsibility to someone that YOU have chosen. But is there a situation where someone is purposely putting guilt on your shoulders? Making you feel bad in certain situations? I was told recently that in the times we feel upset or some strong negative reaction to something or someone, we are actually feeling a part of ourselves. There is a message in our anger and upset that we need to decode.

And so I hear stories to the effect of, “He / she keeps doing things to make me feel guilty.” Of course they all vary but that statement stands strong. And these stories are TRUE. I’ve experienced the same situation on many different occasions. So I’m not here to question the validity of the statements. I’m here to get you to ask a few questions to explore WHY? Because how is a waste of time if there is no good why…

As human beings we have needs that are meant to connect us to other lives and collectively are the reasons that we do what we do. For example, a guy might complain about the job he has as a manager but never leave it because it gives him a sense of significance within the workplace. He may even be the kind of manager that get employees angry on a regular basis but continues to do so because he is meeting his need for security and significance within the workplace.

SO the big question is not, “Why does this person always make me feel GUILTY?” but, “Why do I continue to lie down when the so called guilt-trip shows up?” & “Do I somehow benefit emotionally from feeling guilty and taking on someone else’s responsibility?”

And within that question will lie the answer. For those of you that do charity work, you need to realize that giving to others out of kindness is a human need as well. But a person can have a stronger need to be right than to be charitable. When someone says that they know they should get out of the situation but it’s hard because the other person gets them feeling guilty, they are more addicted to the illusion if being right than to actually ACTING right. Doing the right thing can be a tough road. Sometimes doing the right thing can end a relationship. Sometimes doing the right thing can hurt you up front even though it’s good in the long term. Sometimes doing the right things will get you the treatment you don’t deserve.

If you feel guilty because someone is placing a great pressure on you, you have choices. You can jump in the hole with them and be sad. You can get your arm torn off while trying to drag them out. Or you can show someone how to get out and connect them to why they would be so much better for doing so. Either way, it’s your fault. And now you have no excuse…because you know. Your guilt has always been a bag that you can shoulder or put down at any moment in your life. And no matter what weight you carry, if you keep your attitude up and your heart light, there is no life you cannot change, and there is no life that can break you.

Hope lives.

Samuel Caban RIos III

 

Fork in the road. Whatever the f**k that means.

“If I had any more notches in my bed I’d be sleeping on the floor.” -Eddie D.

Life is a multitude of choices. A seemingly unending gamut of points where we get to stop, look, and decide. The end result is the culmination of those decisions we made. Hell…even after the choices are made we then have choice of the label we give the situation because there is always that moment of reflection. Do we call the situation something that puts us in the throws of relapse? Or do we choose to see in said situation what moves us forward and brings us fulfillment?

After some time I have come to truly see and understand that our point of view is huge in the way we live our lives. How huge?

Charlie Sheen huge. Someone calls you bi-polar? You can either DECIDE that they are right…or you can tell them you’re actually bi-winning.

“I win here and I win there.” – Charlie Sheen

You may say, “Lies. I want this and I didn’t get it and it just kills me.”

I respond to you…NO. It kills you because you decided that if you didn’t get it…you’d feel pain.

Interesting. The same situation. But you decided how you’d feel based on the OUTCOME. Not based on how you DECIDED TO FEEL regardless. This is precisely how an individual can stand in the middle of hell and smile. By deciding to be the “change you want to see in the world.” – Mahatma Gandhi
And be deciding that there was a way to live life and not a way that life just is.

I think it’s important to develop the ability to deal with the crap life throws at you. Because life will do that to the good and the bad without any prejudgment. Life has no time to decide who gets all the good stuff and who gets the shaft. It’s too busy happening. And here you are reading this message I am sending to you out of pure love and in hopes that when life does drop a big issue in your lap that you…

A) Find the Good in it.

or

B) Don’t even notice because you’ve already found too much good.

Keep your heart on your sleeve…and “keep thy pimp hand strong.” – Seven.

Hope Lives.

Samuel Caban Rios III